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Moms sharing – Self care for moms

May 14, 2019
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Self care for moms is an important topic, one I’ve also given some tips on. (Click on this link for our post on 10 EASY SELF-CARE TIPS FOR MOMS). As moms we give so much of ourselves, without any hesitation BUT we tend to forget; we need to “fill our cups” too, because you can’t pour from an empty vessel.

Last week we celebrated 4 mamas SLAYING SOCIAL MEDIAToday it’s the queens of self care. Somehow through the hustle and bustle of family life these moms still find time to take care of themselves. Whether it’s by doing her makeup, daily exercise, quiet time or setting boundaries. These mamas are doing something right and they want to share it with us!

Let’s start with makeup – Clarita Smit from Daily Mirror

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Mompreneur and wifey. Clarita is a fellow girl mom to her beautiful Indiah-Rose – A bubbly 18 month old. If you follow her on Insta you will soon realise; she’s one of the most beautiful people (inside and out).

When was @daily.mirror founded? 

October 4th, 2016, to be exact… My first post was a flat-lay of a Khaki T-shirt dress, nude pumps, some fine rose gold jewellery and my first Louis Vuitton bag.

Why did you start your Instagram page? 

I love fashion and pretty things. My mom has so many photo albums and I love paging through them. Seeing what she wore, how things changed, what she found interesting… These days we don’t keep photo albums anymore. At the time I wasn’t a mom yet, but I knew I wanted something similar for my daughter someday.

So, I just started! As things changed so did my content to include pregnancy  and “mommy-fashion”.  Basically it’s my online diary dedicated to Indiah-Rose and any other babies to come…

You obviously love fashion, makeup and being a woman. How do you find time for yourself and how did you not “loose yourself” in motherhood? 

My husband is super supportive and he KNOWS that these things means so much to me. Bath/shower time is my haven. He will keep Indiah-Rose busy if she is still awake or I’ll get my daily “me-time” when she’s asleep. I also wake up early – 5am. I go to the gym. 6am I do admin and my nails and sometimes I’ll pop on a series (with a face mask). All while the rest of the house is still sound asleep.

Before bedtime I put out my outfit for the next day. Planned, jewellery to shoes. (Such a timesaver in the morning). My mom raised me to be like this. She’s also very well groomed and takes care of herself. As woman it’s important to respect our bodies and take care of ourselves. Dress well and be proud of yourself!

Has your style changed since becoming a mom? If so, how?

I tried not to change but becoming a mom did have an influence. My dress length – longer/maxi dresses make bending and picking things up easier. I want to play with Indiah-Rose and I’ll easily get dirty with her. 

5 Must-have products all moms should have in their makeup bag.

  • First of I would recommend Eye lash extensions. Having them means minimal makeup during the day. You’ll look fabulous when you wake up!
  • Next, definitely a highlighter. Dior Highlighters are my favourite.
  • A good Brow gel. I recommend NYX or Benefit.
  • A great foundation. The type you choose to use will depend on your skin tone and preferred coverage. I like full coverage so MAC Fix fluid is my “go-to”. A BB cream works really well for more active moms.
  • Then a bronzer. My current shade of choice is Swiss Chocolate from MAC (you can use it as a smokey eye shadow shade too).
  • Lastly I simply had to add the perfect RED LIP – Ruby Woo form MAC is a keeper. Give a girl the correct red lip and she can conquer the world! –

As a treat spoil yourself with the Giorgio Armani Luminous silk foundation and Charlotte Tilbury film star bronzer and highligther.

What would be the perfect Mother’s day gift for yourself this year?

I’m just happy to have my baby girl with me and my husband…and a bunch of white roses.

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For more fashion and beauty tips follow Clarita on Instagram and Facebook.

Prioritising your health with Natasha Skuce

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 I met Natasha about a year ago. I was instantly drawn to her and not just because she has the warmest smile. Funny, honest, inspiring and strong.  These are just a few words that describes Natasha but to her boys she is simply mom. Natasha is sharing her wellness and health journey for all the world to see, empowering so many other women to do the sam through FIT LIKE MUMMY.

When was FIT LIKE MUMMY founded?

28 November 2017

Why did you start FIT LIKE MUMMY?

While most bloggers start a blog for themselves, I started the FIT LIKE MUMMY blog for my followers. For months people had been asking me to do so, as they found my journey on social media extremely relatable.  I never considered myself to be a writer but I want to inspire others to overcome obstacles and break the glass ceiling on taboo subjects most don’t want to address.  FIT LIKE MUMMY has become that very platform I’ve always dreamt of.  A space free from judgement that makes a positive impact on people’s lives.

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What has been your biggest health struggle thus far and how have you overcome it?

Overcoming injuries. I have experienced 3 major setbacks over the past two years.  My last setback has been catastrophic. I fell and sustained a double fracture, three sprains and a tear on my right foot. It affected me emotionally, physically and mentally as I lost my independence.

I’ve also gained back some of the weight I worked so hard to lose. The beginning of this year was rough, but thankfully my kids have seen me through.  They are my greatest sources of inspiration and motivate me immensely. 

There are always lessons to be learnt and my injuries have taught me to be kind to myself.

5 Tips for staying motivated when it comes to exercise. How can moms make sure they keep on working out? 

Drop the mom guilt. We need to learn to prioritise ourselves. If we can do that everything will fall into place and our families will also reap the rewards.

Establish an exercise regime that compliments your lifestyle.

Variety is the spice of life. Find a form of exercise you enjoy. If you are doing something you enjoy, you are less likely to give up on it.  The point of exercise is to have fun while you are moving.  The options are endless and whether you have a gym membership or workout at home, it all counts towards a healthy lifestyle.

Set a reasonable goal. We are not in a race with anyone else but ourselves. Take the pressure off and challenge yourself within your own ability and fitness levels. 

Be selfish. Not a trait associated with moms, (I know) but we deserve time to work on ourselves and our health.  Stand fast in your decision to exercise and don’t compromise.  You owe it to yourself and your families.

Ensure you keep working out by getting the kids involved. Working out as a family has many incredible benefits and it also creates the opportunity for quality time spent together. It also creates healthy competition that helps get the kids off the couch and away from their electronics. 

–  Last, moms are world-class multitaskers and thinkers. Have a back up plan for a home workout if you can’t leave the house.

What would be the perfect Mother’s day gift for yourself this year? 

Hot air ballooning with my boys. We are a bucket list family and spend special days adventuring and ticking things of our bucket list. This one has been on our list for a while. 

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Follow Natasha’s journey on her Blog, Instagram and Facebook.

Talking faith with Arlene August

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Have you ever met someone that instantly calms and warms your heart at the same time? Someone that radiates in inner grace and confidence you can’t put into words? Arlene is one of those woman and spending time with her is always a blessing.

Arlene wears many different hats. One being mama to 2 year old Ezra and also wife to Darren. Amongst the hustle of it all Arlene still finds time to quiet her soul, living life at the feet of God.

When was Arlene August founded?

I started my blog in 2012, under the (corny name) All things Arlene, and later changed it to Arlene August. 

Why did you start blogging?

I had stumbled upon the blogging world via my friend, Mrs Rogero’s blog. It was fun and fresh. I discovered a world of online style and thought journals. I always loved writing and dressing up, so when I realised that there was a platform for me to do both, I jumped at it. The blog became a beautiful escape for me to explore my own creativity. 

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You are actually a writer (of books). Please tell us more about your book.

I am a self published author of a book called Daddy’s Girl. My book is a memoire of sorts – an extension of my blog. Late one night, when I was 17 years old, I woke up to the devastating news that my parents were dead. My dad had shot and killed my mom, and committed suicide.

That was the day that my life actually began, because all the time before that seemed like a day dream. 

After my parents death, I was rudely awakened to the real world. A world of people and places that weren’t safe for an orphaned girl that was actually quite naive.

It may seem strange, that my book is titled Daddy’s Girl, given what my father had done. But somewhere along my journey, I was introduced to a Father that never fails, never leaves and always loves and provides – the way a “good” Dad should.

The desire of my heart, and the heart of my book is to point anyone who has taken the time out to read my book, back to Him. 

You share your faith so boldly. Why? Have you done this from day one?

I don’t remember always sharing my faith the way that I do today. One day, I decided to share my story on my blog and I was surprised at how many people, close friends and family alike didn’t know much about my testimony. The feedback I received from strangers from that post blew me away.

I realised that I was given an influence and platform to impact people and point them in God’s direction. So I took that and I ran with it. Now I am very intentional about what I post and doing my best to have it point people to Jesus and God. 

Why do I share my faith so boldly? Because I don’t know who or where I would be had I not given my life to Jesus a few years ago. He has done incredible work in my life, and I don’t want to keep it a secret. There’s so much pain and brokenness out there. If I could be a small light of hope to even just one person, I would be honoured and fulfilled. I share my faith boldly because that’s what I was created to do!

What has been your biggest struggle as a “Christian mom” and how have you overcome this?

Honestly, I’ve felt an enormous amount of pressure to raise a good, kind, clever human while it feels like the entire world is watching. I am definitely a perfectionist so I put more pressure on myself than anyone else could, and sometimes I can be a little too sensitive when it comes to my parenting and the outcomes.

I’ve learnt to stay in my own lane and try not to worry too much about what people say or how they stare when Ezra isn’t behaving as well as he should. Every child is different and has their own personality – just like grownups do. It’s best to keep a cool head and not get frustrated or embarrassed when things are not going your way, especially in public with the watchful eyes of other parents on you.

Also, I’m working on not being too hard on myself! Being a mom is hardrewarding, but hard. Every moment with your child is an opportunity to be better and be present. Dwelling on your passed mistakes will only steal from the moment you’re in now.

5 Tips for keeping God at the centre of your life – especially for moms that are constantly being pulled in every direction, not finding time to practice their faith? 

1. Make the sacrifice and wake up half an hour before you little ones to spend some time in prayer. I’ve found that waking up a little earlier than Ezra and just thanking God for the good things I have in my life steers my day in a beautiful direction. Being grateful and making the choice to focus on the good, first thing in the morning has really done wonders for me. Some mornings I don’t get it right, but I do my best to have those mornings be the minority. It’s hard but its worth it! If spending time with God is important to you, you’ll do your best to prioritise it. 

2. Keep a prayer journal, and be candid and vulnerable with God about what you’re feeling and going through. He wants you to come to Him with everything that’s burdening you. Often just writing how you feel down and leaving all your issues with the Father (and not picking those issues up again) will set you free. 

3. Find a person that you can trust and that is on the same journey as you to keep you accountable and encourage you when you’re feeling empty. Having a safe person where you know that nothing you say will be held against you or even made the topic of conversation during gossip sessions is so valuable. Sometimes you just need a sounding board, or a word of encouragement from a trusted friend to give you the bit of fuel that you need to get through the day. 

4. Make time for for yourself – and don’t feel guilty about it. Before we put Ezra in creche, I would take a day out of the week just to get away from home and the work there to spend some time on my own. I’d dress up, put makeup on and go treat myself to cake or something – just to do something for myself. Because I’m important too. 

I needed that time to clear my mind and relax. It’s difficult to hear from God when your mind is cluttered with your husband, children, work and household needs. If you work a full time job, take your hour long lunch once a week or so and treat yourself. YOU ARE WORTH IT!

5. Put off the radio and download some good praise and worship music and listen to just that, just for a week. It may sound like a massive sacrifice, but you’d be surprised at how much lighter and happier you’ll feel during this time.

I’ve found myself singing along to music with crazy lyrics, absent mindedly. Like the song with the lyrics that say “Bang bang my baby shot me down”, that’s what my dad did to my mom. Why on earth would I want to sing that?! I realised that those words weren’t something I’d want to speak over my life.

Now I’m more intentional about what I listen to. 

What would be the perfect Mother’s day gift for yourself this year?

It may should so cliche, but I would love a big fluffy gown, big fluffy warm slippers and some pyjamas. It would make my day for sure!

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Connect with Arlene on her blog and Instagram.

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And the last mama sharing her outlook on self care for moms…  Aisha O’Reilly. Blogger, YouTube Vlogger, entrepreneur, wife and mama to almost 3 year old Kai. I also get to call this fellow “drinker of tea” my friend. I respect this woman so much. 

With a big, open heart and a drop-dead gorgeous smile she is helping so many other woman to embrace their own true beauty and unique inner strength.

Tell us more about all the different hats you wear in business.

Add digital content creator, speaker and art director to the list already mentioned above. For the moment however, speaker has to be my favourite. I connect best with people while talking. 

What has been your biggest struggle as a “momboss” and how have you overcome this? 

The transition from full-time employment to full-time entrepreneurship. As much as I planned my move, nothing could’ve really prepared me for the slight shock that certain things like salary and medical aid. These weren’t a given anymore. There are no guarantees in deals and money generating opportunities.

Doing this as a  single would have been very different – The prospect of eating beans on toast like a student again wouldn’t phase me. But it’s not something I ever want my kid to think about until he’s actually a student.

I’ve overcome this by knowing and being reminded that I didn’t make the decision alone and I’m not alone in this. My husband is my partner and we take turns leaning on each other. He supports me 100% in what I’m doing.

Any tips for doing it all?

Grab a coffee and get the lowdown directly from Aisha herself in this vlog; “Balance is a MYTH!

What would be the perfect Mother’s day gift for yourself this year?

I spent my actual birthday alone last year. I had a massage, a fabulous lunch and read a book. It was quiet and beautiful. I’d love to do the same for Mother’s Day. Just a day off from wearing all of the hats!

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Photo by Robyn Davie Photography

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Get to know Aisha on her blog Aisha & Life, YouTube, FacebookPinterest, Twitter and Instagram.

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1 Comment

  • Reply Melissa Javan May 15, 2019 at 12:13 pm

    Such a great list of women. I’d like to read Daddy’s Girl! Love the tips given, Natasha’s straight-forwardness – love you girl.

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