“A woman is like a tea bag – you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
As woman and mamas we experience a lot of the same troubles, doubts and struggles. We face the same fears, insecurities, pressure and hate. At times we even act out and hurt one another as only a woman can… A HUGE part of why I started Just a Mamma was to bring about change. Change specifically towards woman- and motherhood. To create a “safe”, loving space where woman of all types can unite and find common ground. A space where we could celebrate and support one another and share in each other’s dreams and lives instead of judging, comparing and setting impossible standards NO ONE WANTS TO ADHERE TO.
Over this last few months I have been blessed to come across so many like-minded ladies that know what it’s all about. Whether through Instagram, Facebook or the incredible gals following and sharing in our blog; I love the sisterhood we are slowly starting to build… Hence the 1st Mamma Collaborative get-together. A gorgeous autumn tea-tasting.
Held at our house, I wanted to create an intimate gathering. Inviting my guests into our home and also my heart. Nothing too fancy or formal. Only a handful of the woman who have been a big support and inspiration from the very beginning of my Just a Mamma journey. A way to say “thank you” and give back for all that they do for me. A relaxed morning where we could get to know one another face to face (not just via text and images), have time to share our stories and grow closer.
A tea party; one of my favourite things to do and never a bad idea… I think all woman feel like a queen when sipping tea from a beautiful teacup. Also, like tea, woman come in endless variations yet they all go through the same brewing process (a.k.a those life experiences mentioned above) to become drinkable. Woolworths has a great selection. I just made sure to have some warm water, honey, sugar, milk and lemons handy.
My sister-in-law had the brilliant idea of taking a classic tea party and turning it into a tea tasting. Different teas are paired with delicious tea-time treats to enhance the flavours and aromas of each tea. She helped me with everything! Providing the tea, making the delicious treats and even setting the table. All I had to do was add flowers and note cards explaining which tea should be paired with each treat.
The food wasn’t just pretty but absolutely delicious! Foodie heaven with gourmet creations such as caramel sorghum popcorn, handmade choc-mint truffles, dark chocolate brownies, chilli chocolate mouse and candied oranges.
This was the most challenging part. I tend to invite the world into my heart and although at times it does get shattered I think it’s worth it for every connection made. For this occasion I kept it small and focussed on inviting mama-makers and woman I have collaborated with over these last few months.
Rachelle van der Merwe for Happi CO., Karen Kelly from Lovilee Blog, Charlene Mc Alpine from Mmm Macarons, Melissa Swart (another mommy-blogger) and the girlboss behind Melissa Glam Bam, Anje-Ilana Nel from Madison & West, Michelle Goosen from Mayalief, Chantelle Beukes from La Fede and The Collaborative SA and Mariette Sakelliou from Little Interiors and aslo The Collaborative SA.
We spent the morning laughing, chatting and even crying. It was incredible to see how although we didn’t know one another we knew exactly what we were going through and that we all needed support, encouragement and a moment to breathe.
25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
Somewhere amid all the tech progress over the past few years we have lost our “human touch”. That connection we can only make when spending time in each others presence. We feel alone, discarded and rejected because we have created an environment where we are impossible to reach. We create perfect, fake worlds without even realising and lose touch with our humanity. We get angry at others and think the worst of one another.
As woman we were created to create, build and give an endless amount of love. We are truly capable of extraordinary things but we need to make a choice! Stop tearing each other down, stop trying to own all the sunshine, encourage your sisters following or walking on the same road (yes, your so-called competition) embrace your own path and your uniqueness and let others help you when doing this seems impossible. Be more loving especially to those not returning the favour and just get together.
For our next Mamma Collaborative I hope to invite even more mamas, building on current relationships and discovering new ones. So keep up to date with when everything goes down and join the sisterhood by subscribing to our mailing list – see the “SIGN UP” button on the right / below (no spam, I promise – I haven’t even sent out the 1st letter yet – but as soon as I do, I promise to make it worth your while). And comments are always welcome, I LOVE reading and responding to you all.
PHOTO CREDIT | Anje- Ilana Nel from Madison & West.