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May #momspiration: Sisterhood of Motherhood

May 21, 2018
Just a Mamma momspiration May Mothers Day giveaway

We started our May #momspiration series with 5 gorgeous #girlmoms, last week we featured some cool #boymoms and today I need to say thank you to a few #mombosses with the biggest hearts in the world!

In preparation for Mother’s Day I knew I wanted to spoil my fellow sisters in motherhood. Celebrating them, just for being mothers. For putting all of their love into raising their little ones.

Motherhood is a blessing and a privilege but it takes a lot, no wait, it takes EVERYTHING from a woman. It changes our bodies, our minds and our souls. And not just for 9 months or so… NO, every single day. It is however a “burden” we mamas carry with pride and one we wouldn’t trade for the world.

For Mother’s day I wrote a little post, “How to be a SUPER MOM!” and with the help of 7 fellow “super moms” I added a giveaway too. The giveaway wouldn’t be intended to promote any brands, to gain followers or likes. We didn’t want to ask or expect anything more for moms. It would purely be a gift to spoil you, just for being a mom.

The 7 moms I’m featuring below jumped at this opportunity, all with the same heart and goal, expecting nothing in return. Only wanting to shower one lucky mama with some extra love this Mother’s Day. Thank you ladies not just for all the sponsored prizes but, for the amazing, supportive woman you are and the generous hearts you have. I feel proud to have you all part of my #momtribe.

  • Anneen Henze

One of South Africa’s top fashion designers, Anneen creates beautiful, feminine maternity and breastfeeding pieces. Garments that celebrate all the phases of motherhood from pregnancy to breastfeeding and beyond. She understands the needs of moms because she is one and although functionality is a priority Anneen never trades up fashion; making sure every season’s collection is on trend. Anneen makes it possible for moms to feel like woman no matter the season of motherhood they are in.

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1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

Most definitely with Jean’s birth. The first time I nursed him. It was a beautiful, supernatural moment for me. To be needed in such a crucial way. Right at that moment God’s unconditional love for us became so clear and tangible to me, it was a very sacred moment.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Best: Let go. Let God. Don’t try and control the things that are not yours to control.

Worst: Follow what “the books” tell you.

3. Except for Jean, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

Self acceptance. I have a new found respect for myself and I found more balance, strange as that may sound.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

Having a rechargeable energy source, like the sun. To basically be Superwoman.

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

The sacrifices she made is award winning stuff. We always came first. Her virtue was patience. Strong but she always chose to be in the background. I have a lot of respect for my “iron woman mom”.

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(Yes, I’m sharing all these incredible woman’s details because they deserve all the support we mamas can give them.)
Own some of Anneen’s beautiful designs by shopping online at www.anneenhenze.co.za. Follow @anneenhenzecollection and like them too @AnneenHenzeCollection.

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  • Michelle Goosen

This mama of two has a creative soul like no other. Her passion for minimalist, monochrome design and her faith makes Mayalief a favourite of ours. Michelle designs and hand-makes every item of  pretty decor, bedding, educational toy and kids clothing. She also designed a wonderful stationary and toddler craft range available in English and Afrikaans. Her talent really is endless and I am blown away by the amount of fantastic ideas and products this mama comes up with regularly. All while still finding time to be a full time mama to her own two princesses.

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1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

My first mom moment, actually our first parent moment was hearing Maya’s heartbeat for the 1st time. We both simultaneously started crying out of utter amazement but also it was the most surreal moment having your future flash before you. It’s not at all the life you have had up until now. No more comfortable living, cuddly “us-time”… Up until that point, feeding the dog was our biggest concern. The word “responsibility” had never carried so much weight.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Best- It’s completely normal and OKAY to sometimes switch off, walk away, cry, rant, get things wrong, forget stuff – it’s going to get “real” and trust me sometimes it’s going to be VERY difficult but you don’t need to be perfect all the time. And also; dads do stuff differently – that doesn’t make it wrong. Accept your partner’s parenting skills too. Don’t always correct them.

Worst- I remember everyone always saying “feed on demand”. Maya was a large baby and for the first week or two I fed on demand. She only asked for milk every six hours. Needless to say she lost a lot of weight, the nurse was furious with me and my milk dried up…

3. Except for Maya and Amelia, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

Messy buns and “motherhood”. I can speak to a complete stranger but somehow we are friends, cause we are moms and can relate.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

I’d be happy with “normal mom” power… My toddler overrides everything I say and asks at this point. That said, an insane memory would come in handy as most of my bad-mom moments are rooted in forgetfulness. And the ability to never ever get frustrated, that would clear up a lot of disagreements between myself and my husband too.

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

I could tell my mom anything and I knew it was gonna be OK. She’d rub my back while I cried my eyes out. We would talk about the wrongs and the rights and then we would come up with a solution. If anything I would like both my girls to feel the same about our relationship. To know that we will always be their safe haven no matter what.

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Shop Mayalief online at www.mayalief.co.za and follow them @mayalief_mooigoed and like @mayaliefmooigoed on Facebook.

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  • Tasmin-Bianca Kotze

When it comes to body goals, Tasmin is my #momspiration! This fit, healthy, gorgeous mama of 2 inspires and helps me (thanks to MotherKIND Glow Mama collagen) to take care of myself. She has a heart for moms and wants to help and support us through pregnancy, breastfeeding and how ever long your postpartum recovery continues. Her adventures with her family abroad shows me “live really starts the moment you become a mom”.

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1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

When I fell pregnant with Liam, I was still in the second last year of my LLB at TUKS. Only my closest friends knew I was pregnant because I managed to hide my bump but it was a very stressful time and I was filled with anxiety and fear. I could never relax or enjoy my pregnancy because of fear of the unknown as well as fear of what those around me had thought at the time. Wesley had just left for his first season in France and I made the decision to stay and finish what I had started and endure two difficult years. The stress of preparing for exams with pregnancy brain as well as the demands of my degree really consumed my life.

4 Weeks before Liam’s due date Wesley surprised me by coming home early. I went into labour. It was a whirlwind of a birth.

Although I had wanted to give birth naturally, I had to plan around my exams so; I booked a c-section for a few weeks later. I remember the sheer anxiety of being a first time mom especially in my circumstances, paired with the fear of not knowing what to expect with natural birth as I was too far along for the doctor to perform an emergency c-section. Wesley’s surprise and the birth of Liam a few hours thereafter culminated into an immense feeling of love, peace and calmness the moment I held his tiny body in my arms. My first mom moment was a realisation of the power of God to uplift us out of your circumstances and the blessing of childbirth. His grace is sufficient for us. It was an instantaneous moment where I understood His love for us for the first time.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Best advice – don’t take the advice of other moms too seriously. Only you know your child and you will know what is best for him/her.

I think any advice people try to give you, who aren’t in your circumstances is the worst advice ever. Our kids have always been very difficult sleepers and we have heard everything about how to get them to sleep through the night but not all kids are the same and one rule isn’t applicable to all kids.

3. Except for Liam and Mila, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

Definitely the cuddles, the memories, the photos and the magical times which seem so much sweeter shared as a family. I learnt how to appreciate life so much more because I see the blessing in every moment of everyday and how fast it really becomes a memory.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

To duplicate myself and be in two places at once. Then I could give my full attention to my kids and not be distracted by my businesses.

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

When you become a mom you realise and understand the love of a mother. Now I know what my mom felt for me, sacrificed for me and did for me. It brings about an enormous appreciation for her part of my life. I appreciate her a 100 times more and I also respect her for the love she has for me as her baby.

 

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This talented mommy runs 2 businesses. Shop the cutest french fashion online at Euro Bebe, @eurobebe.online (Instagram) and @eurobebe.online (Facebook) OR get your mom body on the road to recovery and become stronger post-partum with MotherKIND Glow Mama collagen @motherkindco.

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  • Zoë Kirsty Agostinelli

Zoë may not be a mama in biological terms but that doesn’t make her any less of a mom than the rest of us. In fact, with 5 stepchildren, she’s definitely more mama than I can claim to be. It’s Zoë’s incredible taste and style that helped her establish Scandi Home Decor – Not just another tasteful decor store. This one woman design house is in the business of helping, empowering and uplifting other woman in South Africa. Every item sold is made by either Zoë or the team of local Cape Town based ladies she employs. Teaching them new skills and creating jobs and an income for underprivileged woman in her community. Your heart has an endless capacity for love beautiful mama.

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1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

Being a step mom; it’s hard to describe my first real “mom moment”. I think that it was a role I comfortably walked into and built a really strong foundation and amazing relationship with each of my kids. It’s not something that just happens overnight but I was lucky enough to only experience a few bumps along the road. My youngest was 10 when I stepped in so I had no baby moments but I’ve had plenty others.

My kids call me by my name, they didn’t come from me and I didn’t raise them from babies BUT that doesn’t mean I am not a mom. When I say I have 5 kids to some people their first reaction is “WHAT?!” They seem a little confused so I explain they are my step kids. It hurts to see what their next reaction is… Some people think that because they aren’t your own, I don’t have the same stresses, the same feelings and emotions, the same love and protectiveness. Yes, I don’t have my “own kids” but I think what I have with my 5 kids is pretty close and I’m 100% happy with that.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Best advice – Let it go, things will happen naturally. You unfortunately can’t always fix situations as much you feel that as a mom you should be able to, just make sure that when they do fall you there to pick them up.

Worst advise – Don’t interfere in everything. My husband said the worst advise he got was to tell kids to not fight back, it’s the way you fight that’s important. The key for me is consistency and routine.

3. Except for your gorgeous family, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

Being a mom is hard, it’s strenuous and never ends but the relationship you form with your kids and that fact that they need you is truly inspiring. These beings depend on you. Your thoughts and advice will be shaping them into something amazing. Being needed is the most amazing feeling for me and is a true blessing.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

I would have the power to prevent them from being hurt. Seeing your babies hurt and down is the most devastating thing to watch. Especially when they are teenagers. The heart ache, fights with friends, bullying; you just want to protect them from all the hurtful things out there but also not stop them from being strong in their own right.

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

I am extremely close with my mom. We talk daily and I don’t know what I’d do without her. She is my inspiration. When I was younger I remember her always being there, even when I didn’t want her to. She was always involved and fun to be around. I really look up to her. When I get stuck in life I always call her for advice. I only hope to be half as great of a mom as she is.

 

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Add a touch of modern, scandi sophistication to your home… Visit Scandi Home Decor online at www.scandihomedecor.com, get inspired @scandihomedecor and like them on Facebook @scandihomedecor.
  • Samantha Olivier

I have not met Sam, yet… (but I need to). Her kindness is tangible in the friendly notes she always includes with my orders and the fabulous products she designs and makes. Always willing to add a custom character or new colour. I can’t help but feel happy when liking all her Instagram posts and drooling over the growing range of wonderful wooden and fabric products Tiger Lily offers. This mama makes me want to keep on playing with my kids, no matter their age.

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1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

Within hours after Caleb’s birth. I was already so in love with this little person and to see how dependent he was on us, me in particular, was overwhelming. The powerful motherly feelings of wanting to love, feed, nurture and cherish this little guy hit home hard, in the most wonderful way.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Best advice from our beautiful midwife – have an idea of how you want to birth and parent but be prepared to compromise. Sometimes the little one needs something completely different (I ended up having an emergency caesarean and will forever be grateful for those wise words).

Baby wearing wasn’t really a ‘thing’ 13 years ago but it resonated with me and it worked well for me and my littlie despite the advice to not make a ‘rod for my back’. This along with co-sleeping.

3. Except for Caleb and Kika, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

The moment I became a mom, my husband became a dad. Seeing him in the role of a father was a completely new experience and seeing this new side to him just made me love him even more.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

Octopus-power … extra hands!

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

Growing up my mom wasn’t really into a lot of makeup and jewelry but whenever she was going to an event or on date night with my dad, she had a beauty routine. It included painting her nails, putting on makeup and then invariably wearing a strawberry-necklace. It was actually a strawberry-container that she filled with cotton wool sprayed with her perfume. She looked so elegant and beautiful and my sister and I were in such awe while we watched her get ready at her dressing table.

 

Just a Mamma momspiration May Mothers Day giveaway

Update your kid’s room or toy collection with some modern, contemporary items from Tiger Lily. Order online at www.tiger-lily.co.za. Follow along on Instagram @tigerlilytots and like them on Facebook too @tigerlilytots.
  • Adele Smuts

After the birth of their little girl Ava, Adele took a brave leap of faith. Turning her back on the corporate world in pursuit of a more creative destiny. In November of 2016 she launched Nectar and Ink. A home-based laser cutting studio specialising in creating beautiful wooden items that adds value to your home. Whether it’s a inspirational plaque, photo drop, re-useable reward chart, flower press or play dough kit. Adele draws inspiration from her own journey as a work-from-home-mom; designing and making products that celebrates family life and makes the day-to-day a little easier and pretty too.

Ps: Her play dough is our favourite – nothing else smell better or feels softer.Just a Mamma momspiration

1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

That very first little kick! I remember thinking for the first time that this is real. That a tiny little being is depending on me to help her grow and that I need to be conscious about my food choices and how I treat my body.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Best advice ever – Do it your way! Each momma and babe is different and we need to be confident in our motherly instincts and not try and please others.

Worst – This is a controversial one; everyone told me that I had to breastfeed and not to introduce a bottle until after I stopped.

I had such a horrible experience with breastfeeding as my milk supply was too low and Ava just didn’t get enough. I tried so many things to increase my milk supply but nothing worked. For the first five weeks I basically sat pumping 24/7 to increase my milk supply, with a hungry baby who also had reflux. Exhausted and feeling like a failure purely because everyone insisted that I carry on, it will get better. I finally made the choice to stop breastfeeding at 6 weeks and replaced breastmilk with formula. We used a special type which took care of Ava’s reflux. Things were much better for Ava and myself.

3. Except for Ava, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

My mom tribe. There’s something special about all the new “mom friends” I have made over the past 6 years.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

Time – I would love to be able to slow down time to savour all Ava’s childhood moments.  And to be a “present” mom not worried about deadlines etc.

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

As a single, full-time, working mom with 3 kids – I am in awe and have absolutely no idea how she did it. I am grateful for all that she has sacrificed for us.

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Browse and order all of Adele’s products at www.nectarandink.com. Shower her with love on Instagram – @nectarandink as well as Facebook – @nectarandink.

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  • Kim von Brandis and Samantha Lynn Lilleike

When I see Kim smile, she makes my day. Her smile shows the world her energy and positivity. Bursting from deep inside her heart, bubbling out in an infectious ray of laughter. I can’t resist smiling along.

Have you ever dreamt up a fantasy business with your bestie? Something you both thought would be awesome, especially if you started it together? That’s what Kim and Samantha are doing and we are lucky enough to be here for the 1st steps. Together these two mamas are venturing into the world of soy candles, reminding us all to indulge in the simple pleasures life has to offer. Like a candle lit bubble bath (or shower). See how they both answered the questions below.

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1. When did you feel like a mom for the 1st time? That 1st “I am a mama moment”.

Kim: That moment my first son was born. It was instant! From the second they put him on my chest I completely melted and my maternal mommy instinct kicked in! It was completely overwhelming and took me by surprise.

Samantha: When my daughter was placed in my arms after birth. I finally understood what unconditional love meant and how it felt to be a mother; to have the best parts of you walking around outside your body.

2. What is the best and the worst parenting advice you’ve ever received?

Kim: Best – Trust your gut! You’re usually right.

Worst – Read as many baby books as you can. No book can tell you as much about your own kid as you can. Use them as guidelines!

Samantha: Best – Trust your instincts

Worst – Leave baby to cry it out.

3. Except for your kids, of course… What’s the best thing or part about being a mom?

Kim: Being loved unconditionally!

Samantha: I found myself in being a mom. It’s like a part of me was missing and now I am complete. I never knew I was capable of such love and strength. My children have given me back to myself.

4. If you could have a “supermom” power, what would it be?

Kim: I would be Telepathic. I’d love to be inside my kid’s heads. I want to understand them better, feel the way they feel and know what they’re thinking when they’re exploring something new.

Samantha: To magically have all 3 kids dressed, fed, bags packed and ready for school in the morning without me losing my cool.

5. Looking back at your childhood, what are your thoughts on your own mama?

Kim: She’s my best friend. We talk about anything and everything. She’s always supported the decisions I’ve made in life, even when sometimes they haven’t been the best. She’s always encouraged me to find my creativity and follow my passion which lead me to starting Squiggle & Squeak and our latest venture, Burn Soy Candles. My mom is unconditional in every way – through love, support and friendship.

Samantha: I marvel at how she coped being so young with 3 small children. She was 21 when she had her first baby, I was 30. I think you are still learning so much of who you are in your twenties. It’s amazing how she coped and flourished.

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Burn is still brand, spanking new! They only have an Instagram account at the moment @burnsoycandles. Be sure to follow them and help these mamas make their dreams come true. You can also support Kim over at Squiggle & Squeak, her fun, kids decor and bedding business.

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  • Reply Caley May 24, 2018 at 11:01 am

    SO many gorgeous mamas and amazing businesses – thank you for sharing lovely x

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